I am so proud of you for breaking that chain. You may have made mistakes as a parent - I don't know - but if so, they were TOTALLY DIFFERENT mistakes. :)

For me, that parental disappointment stuff (I grew up with what felt like a nonstop flow of the "oh, if only you'd APPLY yourself" bs) is very much a "worms in my head" experience that just digs in and messes with me on some primal level. I did find what may be the ultimate inappropriate parental disappointment: I read somewhere that Buzz Aldrin's dad was disappointed at him for not being the first one to step foot on the moon. I MEAN.