?"See, those conversations never bothered me in the slightest.
"Mom, we're not coming to your place this Christmas. I despise my relatives and your cooking sucks. We'll be in South Beach. Email if you need me."
"You realize when you do that it makes me want to gouge your eyes out with a dull fork, right? Why do you persist in life-shortening behaviours? Does this seem efficient to you?"
The more management courses I take, the more I realize why the management in the 80's which took their queues from Sun Tzu and Musashi is far, far more resonant with my own than "modern" TQM and other garbage which seems to examine all the particulars of a thing except actually getting the job done. If you establish premises and expectations up front, and actually have the backbone to stick to them, the rest of the interaction becomes much less murky, much more clear, and as a nice side effect, it becomes clear when you're going out of your way to meet someone in the middle, rather than that being the expectation ... and requiring you to go that much farther to them and placing an unfair burden, just so their perception is properly skewed.
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"Mom, we're not coming to your place this Christmas. I despise my relatives and your cooking sucks. We'll be in South Beach. Email if you need me."
"You realize when you do that it makes me want to gouge your eyes out with a dull fork, right? Why do you persist in life-shortening behaviours? Does this seem efficient to you?"
The more management courses I take, the more I realize why the management in the 80's which took their queues from Sun Tzu and Musashi is far, far more resonant with my own than "modern" TQM and other garbage which seems to examine all the particulars of a thing except actually getting the job done. If you establish premises and expectations up front, and actually have the backbone to stick to them, the rest of the interaction becomes much less murky, much more clear, and as a nice side effect, it becomes clear when you're going out of your way to meet someone in the middle, rather than that being the expectation ... and requiring you to go that much farther to them and placing an unfair burden, just so their perception is properly skewed.