Hmmmmmm! Expected rewards, yes... If you've built up... entitlement feelings towards rewards? Or... I wonder if it might tie into Impostor Syndrome? If people are "over-paid" for something they don't internally value so much (due to internal lack of Purpose, lack of Agency (self-motivation), lack of Improvement (mastery)), and get a bonus for being a "fake"...?
I wonder if I will ever get out of the "take money off the table" stage, honestly. I mean, yes, we are comfortable, and expect to be, but ze spouse is retiring soon, and I grew up with a grandfather who lived through the Depression, in a family where no one had a "steady, reliable job," and where my emotionally abusive sire constantly used the goad of "if we you [my mom] don't do everything I say and work extra hard, the IRS will come take everything and we will be out on the street"...
To paraphrase a Bujold quote, I'm not sure if I'll ever be "fat enough."
Especially when I want to throw money at friends so they can be comfortable enough to Create, as well as just worry about my own comfort and not being thrown out on the street.
I wonder if there are people who find enough Purpose and Mastery in problem-solving that the monetary rewards -- even at the point of Too Much -- are incidental? Ze spouse doesn't seem to much care about whether he's going to get one or not, for instance; he knows he probably will get something, but doesn't really... count on it, or think about it, near as I can tell. (Likewise, the kid requires different reward structures that are far more Pavlovian -- ding, treat! -- than the norm.) Spouse -- and kid's behaviorist -- think this is part and parcel of their Asperger's.
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I wonder if I will ever get out of the "take money off the table" stage, honestly. I mean, yes, we are comfortable, and expect to be, but ze spouse is retiring soon, and I grew up with a grandfather who lived through the Depression, in a family where no one had a "steady, reliable job," and where my emotionally abusive sire constantly used the goad of "if
weyou [my mom] don't do everything I say and work extra hard, the IRS will come take everything and we will be out on the street"...To paraphrase a Bujold quote, I'm not sure if I'll ever be "fat enough."
Especially when I want to throw money at friends so they can be comfortable enough to Create, as well as just worry about my own comfort and not being thrown out on the street.
I wonder if there are people who find enough Purpose and Mastery in problem-solving that the monetary rewards -- even at the point of Too Much -- are incidental? Ze spouse doesn't seem to much care about whether he's going to get one or not, for instance; he knows he probably will get something, but doesn't really... count on it, or think about it, near as I can tell. (Likewise, the kid requires different reward structures that are far more Pavlovian -- ding, treat! -- than the norm.) Spouse -- and kid's behaviorist -- think this is part and parcel of their Asperger's.