Oddly enough... Evelyn's helplessness in the face of trying to express her love for Joy _helped_. How impossible it was for her to say things positively, especially with the way *her* father expressed himself, just...
For some reason how things fit together in Everything Everywhere All At Once worked WAY better for me than how it went in Turning Red, where everyone there said things that no one of my mother's or HER mother's generation could have said in ways they would never have said it. Oddly enough Evelyn's "You're too fat!" was so much like my mom's "You can't retire! That's stupid!" that it made sense to me in a way Turning Red was too much a Disney-fied experience.
Evelyn trying to express her love for Joy by finally defying the expectations she thought her father had was... perfect. I don't know why, but it actually hurt?!? a lot less than Turning Red, where the idea that my mom could actually SAY what Mei Lin's mother said, just... it's such a complete fantasy. Where seeing Evelyn try so hard and suck so badly at it. THAT felt so much more real and heartfelt. Mom really does try her best, and I know that she does love me when she says things like "you need to eat more" or "Jet's too skinny! He's too cold! He has to have a coat!!" Just like Joy could interpret to her girlfriend.
Anyway... not sure if that conveyed what I meant. But... yeah. I loved Everything Everywhere All At Once, and while I did cry a bit at the end, it wasn't the same kind of despair I had from Turning Red, oddly enough.
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Date: 2022-04-15 04:31 pm (UTC)Oddly enough... Evelyn's helplessness in the face of trying to express her love for Joy _helped_. How impossible it was for her to say things positively, especially with the way *her* father expressed himself, just...
For some reason how things fit together in Everything Everywhere All At Once worked WAY better for me than how it went in Turning Red, where everyone there said things that no one of my mother's or HER mother's generation could have said in ways they would never have said it. Oddly enough Evelyn's "You're too fat!" was so much like my mom's "You can't retire! That's stupid!" that it made sense to me in a way Turning Red was too much a Disney-fied experience.
Evelyn trying to express her love for Joy by finally defying the expectations she thought her father had was... perfect. I don't know why, but it actually hurt?!? a lot less than Turning Red, where the idea that my mom could actually SAY what Mei Lin's mother said, just... it's such a complete fantasy. Where seeing Evelyn try so hard and suck so badly at it. THAT felt so much more real and heartfelt. Mom really does try her best, and I know that she does love me when she says things like "you need to eat more" or "Jet's too skinny! He's too cold! He has to have a coat!!" Just like Joy could interpret to her girlfriend.
Anyway... not sure if that conveyed what I meant. But... yeah. I loved Everything Everywhere All At Once, and while I did cry a bit at the end, it wasn't the same kind of despair I had from Turning Red, oddly enough.