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[liralen]

I am sick. I also have something due this afternoon. I will get it done.

It's interesting, but today, in the break room, the guy that is in charge of the whole... hmm... the boss of the director of my area might be a better way of putting it... Anyway, he told me, in no uncertain terms, that he's been hearing good things about me. That I'm getting stuff done that no one else was able to do, and that in just the four months time I've been here I've made serious headway on a lot of trouble areas that they've had. I'm helping with everyone in his organization. To get better clarity on things, to think differently about certain things they've not done so well in the past, and to get people headed towards being better able to define their own work and have that line up with what is really needed.

Made me grateful that I gave up my Fridays for a short while.

Also really grateful that he told that to me personally. Wow. Rosty was there, and, afterward, when I did my usual deprecation of a compliment he took me by the shoulders, shook me gently and said, "When someone that far up the chain tells you you did good, believe it. You... Did... Good."

Oof.

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[rmd.livejournal.com]

TAKE THE COMPLIMENT OR ELSE!!!!

[liralen.livejournal.com]

*hands in the air*

Yes, ma'am!

*giggles*

Wow. I love the effect of that with that pic...

It will sink home, damnit...

[kathrynt.livejournal.com]

The shorthand for this in my circle of friends is "Take the compliment, bitch!" Remarkably effective.

[kathrynt.livejournal.com]

HA you beat me to it.

[rmd.livejournal.com]

i figured i had the perfect userpic for it, so i went for it. :-)

[liralen.livejournal.com]

*grin* I imagine so.

[erikred.livejournal.com]

You're absolutely allowed to add the "oof," as long as you take the compliment. The curious thing is that after taking compliments that you deserve for a while, you may discover yourself in the habit of dropping the "oof." This is not only acceptable, it is highly desirable.

Bravo.

[byzantine-ruins.livejournal.com]

Well done!

You can accept the compliment, now can you accept it into your self-image?

[liralen.livejournal.com]

*grin*

*hugs*

[liralen.livejournal.com]

I don't know. I hope so, as it was just a statement of what I'm doing, not what I "am" so to speak.

That the actions I'm taking now are doing good for the organization and company, that I'll readily accept. That my judgement has been sound and the choices of what tasks to take on has been good. Yeah.

My hesitancy to think that "I am as good as he/Kathy/you/kathryn/incandesce/everyone else in the world is" is still something I have to work at. But then that's a loaded term anyway. Though that may not be what you meant at all.

[liralen.livejournal.com]

You did! Thank you!

*hugs*

[byzantine-ruins.livejournal.com]

No, that's what I meant.

[liralen.livejournal.com]

Yeah. Okay. The harder answer is there's still a lot of momentum behind that old habit of self-depreication and inability to value myself. I still have trouble defending or protecting myself, or feeling that I have a right to do so when it hurts someone else or make someone else feel bad. Heck, I even have problems deleteing totally off-topic comments from my own, personal journal. :) I finally did it, but it took a lot of agony on my part.

I'm getting better at it. And this kind of comment helps in that direction.

[archangelbeth]

You are definitely the kind of person who can do way cool stuff like all that. O:>

(Yeah, I don't know about your specific bugs on the topic, but... There's really a meme going around about "If someone says something nice about you, you have to be humble, and not get too proud." Humility. Self-denigration. That this is the polite thing to do... There's no real "graceful way to accept" meme going around that I know of. I wish I did! I suppose "Thanks!" works? *wry*)

[byzantine-ruins.livejournal.com]

Yeah. Okay. The harder answer is there's still a lot of momentum behind that old habit of self-depreication and inability to value myself.

I have a friend who is very clever -- too clever. He had a stroke at a young age and walks with a twisted leg now because he was so clever, he learned to get by without needing the limb, rather than going through the pain and trouble of rehabilitation. Thus are the perils of cleverness.

I still have trouble defending or protecting myself, or feeling that I have a right to do so when it hurts someone else or make someone else feel bad.

I think it's my one regret I never could goad you into taking a genuine swipe at me, though I got pretty close a few times. You'll learn. Have you seen Fight Club yet?

I'm getting better at it. And this kind of comment helps in that direction.

You are good and useful, and not a week goes by that I don't use something you taught me. And I like your crane, too. :P

When they take the scaffolding away, the building has to stay standing on its own.

Back to the ruins with me.

[flit.livejournal.com]

Moose says you did good! Can you say no to that face?

(And I say it too. Don't make me dig up my sulky userpic... ;)

[liralen.livejournal.com]

*many giggles*

Can't say no to THAT face. He's such a lovable, huge guy.

[liralen.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

Physical defense I'm now good at. Emotionally... I'd still rather run away than really rip someone. I have mostly figured that it's the way I'm built and while I'll modify some of the behaviour as necessary, it has to be necessary, somehow.

[liralen.livejournal.com]

*grin* I suppose it does. That's what I said to the uber-boss, and I thanked him for the specific information on what I'd done that helped, as that was important to me in knowing that it was real.

[byzantine-ruins.livejournal.com]

I saw it and gave my pet mouse a treat. That's some powerful dogness. =)

[byzantine-ruins.livejournal.com]

*hugs*