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[liralen]

amberley pointed me at a review of a book called "Why?" by Charles Tilley, and it really highlights something I'd never known before about how explanations can show where a relationship is.

It really brought home to me why I'm comfortable working with Jet on listening to his stories and listening to his explanations and trying to do story for reasons rather than just "laying down the law". Sometimes straight boundaries and conventions are necessary; but how a story feeds a relationship now seems much clearer to me.

The Longmont Library is getting a copy of "Why?" and I'm now first in line. :-)

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[marith.livejournal.com]

Oh, that looks like a fabulous book. I'm going to have to get it. (And link the review, too.) Thank you!

[niherlas.livejournal.com]

That's really, intensely, interesting. Going to have to add that to the short version of my "to-read" list.

[ross-teneyck.livejournal.com]

Looks intriguing.

Every now and then you read a book that gives you a whole new model for looking at some aspect of the world, and it's one of the headiest experiences I know.

One book I remember doing that to me was Jane Jacobs' Systems of Survival. She argues that there are two distinct, parallel systems of morality at work in society -- "trader" or "commerce" on one hand, and "guardian" or "warrior" on the other -- and that each is completely self-consistent but often contradictory to the other. She points out that many problems arise from an attempt to inappropriately use one system of ethics in a situation that is properly the purview of the other system. I found it a fascinating book.

[liralen.livejournal.com]

Cool.

[liralen.livejournal.com]

Thank amberley! :-) I was crying at the end of the article. Sniffle. Glad you'll link it, too.

[liralen.livejournal.com]

Cool. :-) amberley also pointed out one other book by the same author, which is intriguing in a different way, in the aspects of collections of relationships. My library has that one. :-)