Thinking about it, I've never been afraid of technical conversations.
The conversations that I'm afraid of are the relationship and emotional conversations. The 'Mom, we're not making it to your house for Christmas' conversations, the 'why do you do that, it makes me so mad' conversations. That's what I found this book to be really helpful with.
Also, as I get more and more into the murkier depths of being more manager than engineering, everything becomes more about relationships and getting an understanding rather than right and wrong. It's murkier, less clear, far more challanging, now, and far more useful for my engineers to have me clear the path to start. I'm more *useful* talking to a bunch of people and getting real requirements and writing a specification so my guys don't have to hunt around and try to get answers out of people that don't have to talk to them. They have to talk to me, and I find that both useful and sometimes really hard, because I can't just blow them off, as it makes everything that much more difficult for my people.
It's more about long term consequences and doing the job that has to be done. It's interesting knowing that my context has changed that way.
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Date: 2002-04-29 07:37 pm (UTC)The conversations that I'm afraid of are the relationship and emotional conversations. The 'Mom, we're not making it to your house for Christmas' conversations, the 'why do you do that, it makes me so mad' conversations. That's what I found this book to be really helpful with.
Also, as I get more and more into the murkier depths of being more manager than engineering, everything becomes more about relationships and getting an understanding rather than right and wrong. It's murkier, less clear, far more challanging, now, and far more useful for my engineers to have me clear the path to start. I'm more *useful* talking to a bunch of people and getting real requirements and writing a specification so my guys don't have to hunt around and try to get answers out of people that don't have to talk to them. They have to talk to me, and I find that both useful and sometimes really hard, because I can't just blow them off, as it makes everything that much more difficult for my people.
It's more about long term consequences and doing the job that has to be done. It's interesting knowing that my context has changed that way.