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[liralen]

You know the perfectionist in you is taking over when, in class, a dozen different people told you what you did very well and then two people tell you what you could have improved, and you hug those two defects to you for the rest of the week, all but forgetting the positive things.

I will not COMPLETELY forget...

"You know how in a game, the really great referees are the people you just don't notice. They just do their job and things go great, and you never notice what it is they're doing. She was doing that, just directing the traffic and getting out of the way of everyone's ideas."

Comments

[marith.livejournal.com]

*beam* That's a wonderful compliment. Hug it to you along with the improvement suggestions. :)

[liralen.livejournal.com]

*beam* A good idea.

[tagryn]

Me too! (re: the bad habit of embracing the negative)

The negative comments are always the toughest to dismiss, because they just *feel* more genuine than the compliments. I think there's a certain amount of the impostor syndrome going on when I notice myself doing that.

Also, the negative comments usually are specific in what the person didn't like, which gives something to focus and work on (whether the comments are actually *accurate* or not is something else), whereas positive comments tend to be more general. For details-oriented persons, the negative draws more attention for that reason, I think.

The positive comment you quote is a great one, and the person obviously thought it through - which also reflects well on you, that you made a big enough impact that they felt moved to come up with something other than the general "good job, keep it up."

[liralen.livejournal.com]

Given that we'd just been given training on how to give specific feedback, good AND bad... so all the good comments, in this case, were very specific.

I think that it's more of what's in your first paragraph. My impostor syndrome is pretty high, and I'm trying to battle it.

[archangelbeth]

Write down the good things and put them on one side of the computer monitor on sticky-notes, and the two "could have improved" ones, and put them on the other side, and remind yourself that sometimes quantity does matter? O:>

[liralen.livejournal.com]

Ooo! yes. Hee... I love your last line on this.